Could your partner ever really prove to you that they will never leave you? It's impossible. Jealousy can be an irrational and an intensely painful emotion to deal with. Not only that, but it can have hugely destructive consequences in relationships.
Why do we feel jealousy in romantic relationships?
Your irrational jealousy has nothing to do with your partner. We must take full responsibility for the way we respond, and have the self awareness to dive even deeper to the root of the problem. We may need to heal the trauma of being cheated on in the past, but jealousy tends to come from the fear of losing our partner; the fear that loneliness would bring.
Here are some tips to dealing with jealousy:
Sit with your fear, this is the root cause of your jealousy. Feelings may intensify as they surface to be cleared.
Boost your self worth, do things which make you feel better about yourself. When we have low self worth, we compare ourselves to others and lose out. We might be scared of losing our partner because a part of us in not even sure we deserve the relationship. Deepening the connection, deepens our romantic relationship.
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Communicate with your partner. Ask them if it is ok for you to tell them anytime you feel a little jealous, even if it makes you feel silly. Expressing jealousy will help it to not build up until you blow up.
Don’t overlook all of the evidence that disproves your jealousy.
Let go of the need to control the outcome of a relationship or your partner. Be kind to yourself and your partner.
Make your goal happiness instead of making your goal to stay in the relationship.
It can take time to get your jealousy under control, but keep at it. The best time to practice is possibly not in the middle of an explosion of jealousy, but when you feel good. Then little by little you can increase your stillness, strengthen your anchor, and intensify your focus for happiness.
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