By Simona Stefaniskova
I have never met anyone who wanted to be a reflexologist from tiny. I am sure that people like this exist, however that was not my case.
My very first contact with reflexology was through my beloved grandfather who was my therapist as well as a client 😊 He was not a professional therapist but he believed in the magical power of touch. I will never forget the amazing times I spent with him. Every evening before sleep or while watching TV he was working on my feet, gently pressing on my soles and massaging them (and I can tell you that he was pretty good). I loved how it felt and I was always requesting more and more. Once my granny found me sleeping on the sofa with my foot in my grandad´s hand and grandad snoring on the armchair. I bet that if she'd had a camera near she would have taken a picture of us. It felt so natural to my grandad to grab my feet and provide me with reflexology without knowing what it is and it was also so bonding. I had an incredible relationship with him. We had an amazing spiritual connection which I can´t explain (I might tell you about it next time). Did reflexology help with our unbreakable bond? Maybe 😊 . But what I believe, is that it definitely strengthened our relationship.
On the other hand, I was giving my grandad regular massage sessions. He used to say that I had golden healing hands. He truly was an amazing person. Back massage was something he would always be looking forward to so much. And it made me very happy to see how he was responding and how grateful he was. He made me feel special. It sort of became a family tradition that I provided massage to family members from the age of 10.
As I was growing up I had many passions and professionally I wanted to become a teacher. I absolutely love working with kids of all ages and I feel massive fulfilment in this area. However, life took me in a completely different direction in both my personal and professional life. I feel my life purpose is definitely linked to working with kids and young people and the idea is getting much clearer recently. My extreme interest in holistic health lead me to study holistic medicine, as this option was not available in my country I was determined to move abroad and study high quality courses so I could offer the very best.
I started first with doing self study of reflexology later aromatherapy. I took several online classes to help me to dive more into the theory of the subject while I was working full time. The more I learned more I became interested. Let´s say that there are two approaches in reflexology eastern and western. Eastern is more about Chinese reflexology and using Chinese pentagram to balance the health. Western approach is modern reflexology. I will take a closer look at this in a video or blog post later on. They are both different in the techniques used and ways of working with a client. I felt drawn to both of them. I went to Prague in 2015, to participate on a workshop two amazing, highly experienced reflexologists were offering, which was focused more on the eastern approach to reflexology. I loved it. I began looking for material and classes to understand it further and practising my skills on my clients.
When it felt like the right timing I applied to study complementary therapies in Metropolitan College in Brighton, UK. It was incredible. That was exactly the piece in my education which I had felt was missing. Having experts teaching me and supervising my work for a whole year is priceless and a significant experience in life of a therapist. Not only that but I enjoyed the hard work which came with it, providing reflexology, aromatherapy and massage treatments to many clients with various health issues, and I successfully graduated with the award of student of the year. I am so grateful that the passion and energy I give to my treatments was not only reflected in the amazing feedback from clients, but also from tutors who were very happy with my work. I was inspired and even more motivated to constantly improve and offer genuinely transforming treatments to everyone who feels like working with me.
So here I am. At the moment I am working from our temporary home-based practice in Cumbre del Sol, Benitachell until we open our Simsar Healing Centre in Spain.
If you are living in Costa Blanca, Spain or coming for holiday, you are very welcome to book a session and experience the amazing benefits of reflexology on yourself.
Please contact me via email firstname.lastname@example.org or I am also available on WhatsApp on +447749342190
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What would you reply if someone asked you for the advice written in the title of this article?
When someone asks me I always say: "Start to believe that it is possible to fulfil all of your dreams!" This is my brief, and I believe, useful advice on how to manifest dreams.
You might say... "Is that it?”
Well, of course not. But to start to believe that YES, YOU CAN FULFIL YOUR DREAMS, is a very significant step.
You cannot walk without taking a first step and then a second one, right? The same applies to our dreams.
Make it very clear to yourself what it is that your heart would love to create in this reality.
Once you are sure, and I am not talking about picturing every detail of it (unless you want to of course), hold the vision of your dream and believe that if this dream is coming from your heart it will become your reality.
After this, you are fully ready to set smart and sensible goals towards your dreams in order to achieve them.
Let me remind you this... We all deserve the best, all of us, with no exception! That’s the truth. No matter how badly you judge yourself, how horrible and painful your life used to be, or no matter how hard your life may seem to you now, maybe your life is not even bad but you feel stuck and unable to do what you really would love to do, just remember that You deserve THE BEST. Let me repeat once more. YOU, my friend, DESERVE THE BEST, in every part of your life.
Have a good night and sweet dreams/dreaming :-)
Loads of love,
A time comes in your life when you finally get it...
When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you
stop dead in your tracks and somewhere, the voice
inside your head cries out - ENOUGH!
Enough fighting and crying, or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes, you begin to look at the world through new eyes.
This is your awakening...
You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are not Cinderella and that in the real world, there aren't always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you and in the process, a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are ... and that's OK. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process, a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it's not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process, a sense of safety & security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process, a sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness.
You realize that much of the way you view yourself and the world around you, is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. You begin to sift through all the junk you've been fed about how you should behave, how you should look and how much you should weigh, what you should wear and where you should shop and what you should drive, how and where you should live and what you should do for a living, who you should marry and what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and raising children or what you owe your parents. You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
Values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with and in the process, you learn to go with your instincts.
You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive and that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a by gone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything; it's not your job to save the world and that you can't teach a pig to sing. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship. You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.
You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love; and you learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms, just to make you happy.
You learn that alone does not mean lonely. You look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing over how you "stack up."
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK and that it is your right, to want things and to ask for the things that you want and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.
You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won't settle for less. You allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you with his touch and in the process, you internalize the meaning of self-respect.
And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear. So you take more time to rest. Just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul; so you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that for the most part in life, you get what you believe you deserve and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen, is different from working toward making it happen.
More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone and that it's OK to risk asking for help.
You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time; FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear, is to give away the right to live life on your terms.
You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions, you learn not to personalize things. You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers; it's just life happening.
You learn to deal with evil in its most primal state; the ego. You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted; things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about; a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself, by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever settle for less than your heart's desire. You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind, and you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.
Finally, with courage in your heart, you take a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.
by Sonny Carroll
I had an amazing day today and I really want to share this adventure with you guys!
I don’t have many photos as my mission was not to capture the nature around me, my intention was to get over my fear. Maybe next time.
It was a beautiful hiking journey I was so afraid to take for so long. I don’t like massive rocks and heights, I am literally getting paralysed by climbing any mountain, even not scary ones. I felt like this new moon cycle was the right time for me to overcome my fears (at least some of them), to really try to go above this and do things I wanted to do for ages but couldn’t. And this “journey” was one of them and I DID IT ! I am so proud at myself. 😍
My head was spinning and my legs were shaking, and trust me it was not only because of the humongous amount of physical exercise but mainly because of that sinister fear telling me that I will fall, break myself or even die. Ridiculous? Well, not for me. However I was strongly determined to do it! Even though one path we picked looked purely suicidal not just for me but even for my highly experienced Spanish mountain hiker chica and at that moment I thought well now even she can see that this is an insane idea and that we should never ever come back. This instant thought angrily crossed my head just a bit before a bigish rock was falling from the top of the rocky hill and almost hit me and little Dietrich while waiting for the rest of the pack to return from trying to figure out where the hell the right path to the desired destination was. Thank goodness we were quicker than the actual falling rock and therefore survived. At that point not only my legs were shaking. When my woman somehow managed to climb down safely ( as I said, experienced chica :) ) I probably already changed several colours in my face and I probably appeared extremely pale when she asked me if I wanted to return home. As I didn’t want to disappoint her and of course myself, I stayed quiet until we got to a safer area where I actually decided to continue on our journey as long as we found a less creepy and suicidal path and we did. Actually Nina our mountain goat, I mean dog found it :). We finally noticed some path signs on the rock so we went ahead confidently. For me, I was doing well (very well in fact) climbing and jumping from one rock to another trying to not to slide down believing that I can do this. I even felt stronger in mind and like I was actually safe, and then I spotted cracked snake eggs at my feet. Frankly, I just had to laugh and somewhere deep inside hope that even though it is sort of boiling for us, that it is not very hot for the snakes (which is by the way my other biggest fear). It was 4pm. We arrived happy to the cala. A very nice and peaceful cove with some abandoned probably fishing cottages.
It was worth it. The sea. The breeze. The views. Reconnection with the self.
I am sharing this to encourage you to go and do things you are scared of because it feels so good ! It feels amazing not to let fear control us. It feels great to be free. If I can do this, you can 100 % do it too! Be safe don’t do silly things but stay smart and open minded and you will get there. No matter what it is, where it is. This walk today has been a most valuable experience for me. I have so many insights and much more courage which I can apply in everyday life.
Let’s live the way we want, we are all capable and strong enough to not let our fears to overpower us.
SIMONA & SARA